It might be reading into it what is not there, but I often wonder if there is something to the fact that Scripture says to men, “Love your wives, as Christ loved the church,” (Eph 5:25) and it never says to them, “Love the church as Christ loved the church.”
Sacrificial love for the church is obviously present in commands like, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others,” (Phil 2:4) or “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another” (John 13:34). So, it cannot be that men are not called to love others sacrificially as well. But it is only with respect to their wives that they are told to love as Christ loved the church and “gave himself up for her” (Eph 5:25). There is some kinds of primacy and priority there, since we cannot give ourselves up for everyone.
In a world where more and more wives get laid on the alter for ministry, I wonder if this argument from silence is a valid one to consider.